"Forget About Sex"

"What in the world is wrong with girls? Especially high school girls?"
Actually...nothing.
"You mean you like guys?"
No.

That's right I don't plan on dating any girl (or guy for that matter) while I am in high school. There is just no need for me to pursue a relationship that I have no idea where it is going anyway. So, why does everybody else want to do it. (Besides our natural sinful urge of sex, and the underlying meaning of sex pretty much everywhere and in everything.) Well, we sort of model after our parents and the teenagers that are older than us that we see on TV and secretly aspire to be. That's right, you all wanted to be Zack Morris when you were growing up. Just kidding, I don't actually know how many people have seen Saved By the Bell Actually that would be reading this. Anyways, the fact is that we are subliminally taught to date others starting at a young age.

For instance look at the two four year olds Mark and Lucy who play fun holding hands. Lucy is the only one who shows that she likes it but Mark secretly does. What do we do about this behavior? "Awwww. How cute," is probably our first reaction. Then we like them to get together more often since we see they get along better. In fact, some hyper-paranoid parents might actually attempt to keep them together till marriage. To get to my point, we are encouraging them that this attraction between male and female is a good thing and they should do it more often. Bad choice parents. (note: I am not encouraging the break up of several thousand four-year-old couples out there by parents means.)

We then look at the teenagers are dating a new person each week on TV and they are even more attracted to the opposite sex than before, even though we don't know why. Why are we constantly teaching kids that dating at extremely immature ages is an acceptable thing. Well, I guess it is in American culture, but if you were to think about it real hard you would arrive at something else.

First, as we are in high school we are still not technically adults. Nothing says that we are mature enough to date the opposite sex then. In fact, at this time is when our hormones are all out of whack, so who knows what our relationships are messed up too, and this alters our concept of what dating really is. Not to mentino, we are still not old enough to be able to date others. We have many other things in life we are still trying to figure out for example how to socially react to other people, what do we want to do for the rest of our lives, where do we want to go to college, our own self-identity. Learning what dating is at this age is almost impossible and our whole view is changed.

Secondly, if you think hard about it what is dating all about. Well, if you were to take it all the way back to Anglo-Saxon era and shortly after that all the way up till American culture was founded, it was originally called courtship. Courtship was when suitors, who were almost always male, "dated" other girls to find the one they loved and the one they were to marry. And this is how dating started. So the point is that dating is originally for finding your second half. And let's face it, if you're not ready to marry you're not ready to date.

The last one is a trippy issue that is fought between many people, christians and atheists and other's alike. If we are to date when our hormones are like this, and our image is tainted by the media, we WILL have temptations for anything and everything, just about. I want to stay pure for my future bride. I want to give her the best gift I could possibly give her someday and that is my virginity. I think that sex is not the most important thing in my life (it is only a benefit for my wife and loving her when that time comes) so experience is not an issue at all here. Plain and simple, sex before marriage is a bad thing.

Now I know that dating doesn't automatically lead to sex, but the temptation is still their and I would just assume to not dawdle in it. I've got enough on my plate as it is and I don't want to add to it. Now for you people who are under 20 years of age, I'm not saying for you to devote your life to celebesy now, I just want to tell you to think carefully when you decide to to start "dating" someone. You need to understand exactly what you are doing.